Lani Leary

Authors Pavilion
Sunday May 6, 3:00 pm
Presenting her book, No One Has to Die Alone: Preparing for a Meaningful Death

Genre: Nonfiction: family/relationships, death/dying, bereavement, spiritual
Atria Books/Beyond Words; April 10, 2011
Paperback; $15.00; 208 pages
Kindle/Nook/iTunes version; $9.99

The book: Caring for a terminally ill loved one can be the single biggest challenge of your life. Drawing from her experience sitting with over 500 people as they died and caring for her own terminally ill father, Dr. Lani Leary gently guides caregivers, family, and friends through the difficult transitions of illness, death, and bereavement.

No One Has to Die Alone offers the practical skills, vocabulary, and insights needed to truly address the needs of a dying loved one while caring for yourself through the process. Dr. Leary shows both patient and caregiver how to rise above feelings of fear and isolation to find peace and meaning in each person’s unique end-of-life experience.

Whether used as a reference book to address a particular challenge or read from start to finish, this is a must-read for anyone facing death or the loss of a loved one. You’ll learn:

• how to listen to and support a loved one’s needs;

• what to expect as a loved one declines and the different grieving processes and tasks;

• the key to supporting a grieving child;

• what resources are available for patients and caregivers;

• the lessons of near-death experiences and the value of after-death communications.


“Leary, a psychotherapist and professor of death studies, has written an extraordinarily clear-eyed and helpful guide for those who must care for a dying loved one, an almost unavoidable and challenging situation. Leary brings both the personal experience of her parents’ deaths—two very different situations at different times in her life—as well as two and a half decades’ professional experience working with the dying and the bereaved. Caregivers almost always begin the journey of caregiving not knowing what to do or say; Leary offers both information and comfort for them. Half the book deals with caregiving for the dying, and the second part concerns itself with the bereavement process; several appendixes list varieties of resources. Leary respects both the patterns within and the uniqueness of the processes of letting go and grieving. She provides a public service; this book is strongly recommended for libraries.”

Publisher’s Weekly

“In a culture which tends to avoid issues relating to death and dying, Lani Leary tackles the challenges with openness and humanity.”

– Robin L. Cowherd, Director of Donor Family Services, LifeNet Health

“This book is a book of grace, beauty, blessings and guidance for anyone wishing to expand their consciousness and their practical, as well as sacred, relationship with death, dying, and human suffering – the fear, pain, joy, privilege, struggles and successes on this path.”

– Jean Watson, PhD, RN, AHN-BC, FAAN, Founder of Watson Caring Science Institute

“A guide book about how we and our loved ones can spend our last days of life in peace should not exactly be a page turner, but “No One Has to Die Alone” is just that — at once enlightening, inspirational, practical and hopeful. So easy to read and impossible to ignore.”

– Kimberly Clark Sharp, MSW, author of After the Light

Dr. Lani Leary has over twenty-five years of experience as a psychotherapist working with chronically ill, dying, and bereaved clients. She served as the director of mental health services at Whitman Walker AIDS clinic, as a professor of Death Studies at George Mason University, and as a researcher at the National Cancer Institute of NIH. Leary also garners wisdom from her personal experience—her mother’s death when she was a child, her father’s death from cancer, her own profound near-death experience—and has sat with over 500 people as they died.

Dr. Leary has spoken nationally at over 250 conferences, writes a bereavement column for, and is the author of Healing Hands, an international, bestselling audiotape on therapeutic touch and pain management. Dr. Leary lives in Honolulu, Hawaii.

Lani Leary talking about her book at the recent TEDx Honolulu event.

“The Conversation” Hawaii Public Radio 4/19/12

“Voices of Women” 

“The Business of Wisdom” with Dr. Alvin Jones interview


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